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Counseling Center

Humphreys 131
Warrensburg, MO 64093
Phone: 660.543.4060
Hours: 8 AM-12PM, 1PM-5PM
Summer: 7:30AM-12PM,1PM-4:30PM





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Is it My Fault?

Consensual sexual behavior is mutually desired and freely chosen. If you have been forced or coerced into sexual contact with someone without your consent, you have been sexually  assaulted, even if you:

  • Just met this person
  • Are in a committed relationship with this person
  • Were attracted to this person
  • Trusted this person
  • Chose to be alone with this person
  • Feel you may have led this person on
  • Feel you were naive, foolish, or not cautious enough
  • Feel like it was your fault
  • Feel like others won't believe you
  • Consented to other sexual contact with this person right before it happened
  • Had sex with this person before
  • Felt obligated to have sex
  • Have had multiple sexual partners
  • Were or still are a virgin
  • Don't have physical injuries from the assault
  • Didn't fight back
  • Didn't say no
  • Were under the influence of alcohol or other drugs
  • Were sober
  • Dressed a certain way
  • Didn't tell anyone about it
  • Didn't report it to university officials or police
  • Told others and they didn't believe you

Sexual assault can occur in a variety of contexts by any person, even if s/he:

  • Is your friend, girl/boyfriend, partner or spouse
  • Is your boss, supervisor or coworker
  • Is your classmate or professor
  • Says s/he cares about you
  • Has always been respectful and polite
  • Is popular or famous
  • Doesn't seem like the type of person to assault someone
  • Has never done anything like this before
  • Was or is a virgin
  • Was under the influence of alcohol or other drugs
  • Was sober
  • Did not physically force you into sexual activity
  • Seemed out of control of themselves sexually
  • Paid for your date
  • Spent a lot of money on you
  • Has been nice to you since then
  • Expected you to have sex with him/her
  • Is female
  • Is straight
  • Is gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or transsexual
  • Is sorry for what s/he did
  • Apologized to you for what happened
  • Doesn't realize that s/he violated you

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