For Parents: Adjusting to College
Time for a change
- Your child going to college is a major transition for the whole family. Strong feelings of all sorts may go with it. You may feel excited, proud, and happy for your child. You may also feel grief, loss, and anxiety for all kinds of reasons.
- Recognize and acknowledge this change. It is a good idea to talk openly about these changes and how family members feel about them.
Help to prepare your child
- Talk with your child about this change and how she/he feels about it. What is your child looking forward to? What is he/she worried about? See how you can be of help. Often, there will not be any specific thing you can do about these feelings.
- Just listening to your child without feeling you must solve her/his problems will often help your child feel better and more able to approach you in the future.
- If your child is living in a residence hall, give them a basic tool kit. This will help them in moving in to their room, putting together furniture, hanging pictures, and so on. Also, it will facilitate meeting other students on the floor who will approach your child for help or to borrow a tool.
- Send “care packages” of food and treats. This is a nice way to show your child that you are thinking about her/him. Also, your child will be able to share the treats with new friends and other students on the floor.
- Ask your child what he/she wants from you emotionally. In what ways does your child want you to be available to her/him? How much and what type of contact would your child like? These are all things to discuss from time to time.
When help is needed:
A wide variety of resources is available throughout the UCM community to help students in adjusting to college life. Student Affairs offers an array of services to assist in the academic, personal, and professional success of UCM students.
The Counseling Center is a division of Student Affairs. Our staff is able to address a number of educational, career, and personal issues. Visit our office during regular business hours - Mon. through Fri., 8 a.m. – Noon and 1 - 5 p.m. in 131 Humphreys Building or call 660-543-4060.
For additional resources, please visit our Resources and Self Help pages.
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