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What Does Dating and Relationship Violence Look Like?

Dating & relationship violence
Dating and relationship violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to exert power and control over a partner. Dating and relationship violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure or wound someone. This kind of violence can occur regardless of the relationship status, including individuals who are dating, cohabitating, or married.

UCM is deeply concerned about dating and relationship violence whether it occurs on campus or off campus and regardless of whether or not the respondent is a student.

It is important to recognize there is usually a pattern or a repeated cycle of dating violence, starting with the first instance of abuse.

Dating and relationship violence is not about sex or love; it is used for the intent of gaining power and control over a person:

Victims of dating and relationship violence sometimes believe what they are experiencing is just a normal part of being in a relationship. They may be hesitant to ask for help out of fear of embarrassment, fear of looking weak, or out of a fear of retaliation by their partner.

Violence and fear are not a normal part of a healthy relationship.

General Pattern of Behavior:

Warnings or Signs of Potential Dating/Domestic Violence:

Ask yourself if your partner engages in the following activities; these behaviors MAY be a warning sign of potential dating or domestic violence if they occur in a manner or pattern that becomes persistent, unwelcome, unreasonable or invasive: